When You Just Need to Smash Something (And Why It’s Healing)
There are moments when calm isn’t what your body is asking for.
Sometimes what lives inside you needs to be moved.
Released.
Shaken loose.
Not analysed.
Not softened.
Not explained away.
Just expressed.
So much of what we carry has no words.
It lives in the muscles, the jaw, the chest, the breath.
This is why the body sometimes craves what I jokingly call a wreck room moment.
Not because you are angry.
But because you are full.
Release is part of healing too.
It doesn’t have to be destructive.
It can be conscious, safe, and surprisingly sacred.
Here are a few gentle “wreck room” rituals you can try at home when your system needs to let go.
1. Pillow smash
Wrap a pillow in a towel and hit your bed or couch.
Let sound move through you.
Growl if you need.
2. Rip + stomp
Tear up paper, cardboard, old mail.
Throw it.
Stomp it.
Name what you’re releasing.
3. Ice break
Take ice cubes and throw them onto concrete or tiles.
Watch them shatter.
Let something inside you do the same.
4. Breakable ritual
Use old crockery.
Wrap in cloth.
Smash safely outside.
Clean up mindfully after.
5. Shake it out
Put on loud music and let your body shake, stomp, move wildly.
End with slow breathing.
These aren’t about rage.
They’re about release.
They remind the nervous system that movement is allowed.
That feelings can pass.
That you don’t have to hold everything forever.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself is let it move.
There is a Japanese art called kintsugi, where broken pottery is mended with gold.
The cracks are not hidden. They are honoured.Sometimes release is the breaking.
And sometimes healing is the gentle mending that follows.
If you’ve been holding more than you can carry, your body is not wrong for wanting release.
It’s wise.
From one Bean Feasa to another Wise Woman
Many Blessings /|\
Tash xo
